Welcome to Part 2 of 20 Mistakes to Avoid on PlentyOfFish. We originally planned on making this one article with 10 points but we found so many examples of people doing it wrong, we decided to split it into two! Below are the remaining 10 Mistakes to Avoid on PlentyOfFish. If you missed the first half of the article, you can read 20 Mistakes to Avoid on PlentyOfFish Part 1 here.

11. Lack of interests

This is another key part of your profile and shows women that you have an interesting and attractive lifestyle. Again, try and embody this idea in real-life as well as online and if you don’t already have some interesting hobbies, find some that are a little bit more unique than:

• “Going out with the lads”
• “Going down the football”
• “Nothing” (Yes, someone actually wrote this as an interest!)

12. Including personal details

If you include your mobile phone number, email address, BBM PIN or any other personal details, it basically says that you have no standards with regards to who you chat to and comes across as desperate and sleazy. Not to mention that it’s dangerous as you have no idea who is reading your profile.

13. Being negative about other people

Putting other people down is an unattractive trait in real life, so don’t do it online either. This will not score you any points and will just make you look insecure and bitter. Avoid saying things such as:

• “Never thought I’d be doing this…”
• “I’m not like all the other weirdos on here!”
• “If you think you are a queen and the best woman around, don’t message me”

14. Being too “nice”

By “nice” we mean “generic and boring”. You can’t please everybody and so don’t be afraid to be yourself and most importantly don’t sit on the fence. Another important thing is not to scare women off by being too romantic, as this comes across as desperate and needy.

• “I like all types of music and can listen to everything”
• “I get on with everyone”
• “I love to listen and can gaze into a person’s eyes for hours”

15. Excessive swearing and rudeness

This should be a no-brainer but there are an alarming number of PlentyOfFish profiles containing profanity and aggressive language. This may appeal to some girls, but they are in the minority and you have to question if these are the types of women you really want in your life. We don’t think we need to give examples, but some of these are too funny not to include:

• “For all those girls who say ‘send me a message and make it unique’ – you f**king try!”
• “You are boring the crap out of me ladies”
• “I can’t be ****ed with people who are two faced, they **** me right off”

16. Only talking about your job

One of the most common (and boring) things women get asked is “What do you do?”. Your job doesn’t define you, so don’t make this mistake online either. By all means mention your career, but don’t make this the focus of your whole profile. Similarly, don’t just talk about the gym, as this also shows a lack of imagination.

17. Writing too much

You want women to be intrigued by what you have said and eager to learn more. If you overload them with information in your profile then they won’t have anything to ask you about, as well as the fact that a massive chunk of text is overwhelming and off-putting. Five to six sentences should suffice.

18. Rubbish jokes

A sense of humour is an attractive trait in a man, unfortunately however, this does not always translate well in writing. By all means include some amusing comments if you are confident they will come across well, otherwise avoid them at the risk of sounding cheesy. Here are some of our favourites:

• “Please form an orderly queue – no pushing!”
• “Limited offer, hurry!”
• “How uuu dooin?”

19. Lying

We don’t have any examples that we can prove, but if you need to lie to impress women, then you are doomed from the outset. You may have some short term success, but you will quickly find it crumbles once the truth comes out. Be honest and focus on making your life attractive enough to not need to lie about in the first place.

20. No description at all!

Do we need to say any more?

Conclusion

You’re probably reading this and thinking “That’s great, but what is left to put on my profile?”. This is ultimately down to you, but two immediate tips we can give you to help you get started are:

• Get a couple of good photos. These can be existing ones, or you can take new ones especially for your profile. They don’t have to be professionally shot works of art, just bear in mind these simple rules. Dress well, have good body language (so no slumped shoulders or awkward posture) and look like you’re having fun! It’s also good to have a variety of photos, so if you have pictures of you with friends (particularly other women) and participating in activities you enjoy, this will give you an advantage over 99% of the other guys on there.
• Write a list of all the interesting things you have done in your life. We ask people to do this all the time and often their initial reaction is “I don’t have any”. As soon as we probe a little deeper we almost always find that they actually have achieved lots of fascinating things, they just don’t have them at the forefront of their mind. Take a minute to think about it and we’re sure you can come up with at least five cool and interesting things that you can talk about passionately.

Ultimately, girls use online dating sites like PlentyOfFish as a way of meeting men outside of clubs and bars. They’re tired of being asked the same questions over and over again, yet unfortunately this pattern still occurs on the internet. Put yourself in her shoes and think “If I was being bombarded by hundreds of messages, what would make one stand out and make me want to read it?”. Try to second-guess all the other guys who are making the same old mistakes and getting the same bad results. Finally, don’t be discouraged if every woman doesn’t write back. Like we said, they receive hundreds of messages so it’s most likely yours just got swallowed up in her inbox. Don’t take it personally and just try and have fun!

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